Jamie Foxx & Black Men

Jamie Foxx was on Tyra today and I must say he is a fun guy. So talented and confident, BUT Playa no doubt. Over the years I have dated black men and there's a saying that "once you go black...you don't go back". I am hear to tell you that it is a myth. I have been in a relationship with a dorky, seemingly trust worthy man for 13 years now and while is personality and exterior could have you convinced that he is trustworthy....he has proven NOT to be. I am so done with black men in general and even though Jamie Foxx is attractive in his special way.....you can not trust him or any black men in general. I know that this view will cause a lot of heated feelings among some, but when I thought I met the man of my dreams....well now that is gone. I think their testosterone controls their life and I feel sorry for them. While they are typically fun to be around...they are not commitment worthy. One could say this about most men, but prove to me that there is a trustworthy black man somewhere out there. I've never met him. Either way, I am done with them. A black man can't give me the blue-eyed, flowing hair child that I desire at this point of my life.

Why do we judge and cause eachother so much pain?

Why do people care to or focus too much on controlling or changing people. I am a straight female and I could care less what other people choose as their mate (transgender, bi-sexual, gay, or whatever). Why must we force them into something that they are not. Prop 8 shoud have been illegal because it was discrimination no matter how you twist it. Yes, I go to church but some people take religion to another level and make it a personal issue. I have a mind of my own and when something doesn't make sense...I naturally question it. I am not disrespecting religion at all...I am just using common sense. There are more important issues in the world that DIRECTLY affect us and those issues need to be the actual focus. I rather have more people around that are happy being who they are.

Inspired by Judge Judy

Saw Judge Judy on Shatner's Raw Nerve the other day...and wow I am so glad I did. Aside from the fact that Shatner has a bad habit of cutting people off mid-sentence and asking rude questions...I really felt that I got a a renewed sense of confidence listening to Judge Judy. She exudes a rough exterior, but like all women we want the support of a strong man. Her first husband did not meet her expectations and I got a sense that her next husband did not meet those expectations either, but as she grew older she realized that they will probably never be her match. She is content because her current husband and her have the same sense of humor. I too feel that I am a strong woman and have always had to "carry the load" when it came to finances or to get anything accomplished. I am with a man that wants very little in life and is content with just driving his motorcycle around while I taxi our child around and pay the bills on time. I have always made more money, but he chooses to take the back seat and just make enough money to get by. Everything we accomplished is because I made it happen. He's passive about contributing goals or direction to our family. It's true that women in charge have a tendency to choose men who take direction, but how can we have the best of both worlds? Judge Judy is satisfied having what she has with her husband, but acceptance may have come easier for her since she has already created her own financial freedom. Financial freedom is a woman's nest...we need it to feel safe and confident. So many men do not understand this? Men may be more or less inspired if sex was more frequent, but women are emotional creators...if we feel our home is on shaky ground then we are less and less interested in sex. This is why love is such a vicious cycle.

Economy and Relationships

I have spent many years, 13 to be exact, with one man and now I am feeling that I should have moved on a long time ago. After his years of lies... the last one was the last straw for me, but now I am stuck because I have recently lost my job and can not afford to pay the mortgage on my own. Each day is a struggle to keep up with the image of looking happy when inside I am scared and desiring an escape. There are probably many people in the same boat and it's a lonely feeling. Now that I am older I have a better understanding of what kind of man and life I want. I missed opportunities along the way and as a result many of those opportunities are now married with their own children. I am not one to cheat, so now my only option is to make enough money to break free from my internal jail. It is so difficult to make connections with people as you get older. They have their own family and friends that they have had for years and are very reluctant to let you into their inner circle. My "inner circle" is so busy with their own lives that I rarely hear from them as well. Just wondering if there is other people out there who feel the same way??