Inspired by Judge Judy

Saw Judge Judy on Shatner's Raw Nerve the other day...and wow I am so glad I did. Aside from the fact that Shatner has a bad habit of cutting people off mid-sentence and asking rude questions...I really felt that I got a a renewed sense of confidence listening to Judge Judy. She exudes a rough exterior, but like all women we want the support of a strong man. Her first husband did not meet her expectations and I got a sense that her next husband did not meet those expectations either, but as she grew older she realized that they will probably never be her match. She is content because her current husband and her have the same sense of humor. I too feel that I am a strong woman and have always had to "carry the load" when it came to finances or to get anything accomplished. I am with a man that wants very little in life and is content with just driving his motorcycle around while I taxi our child around and pay the bills on time. I have always made more money, but he chooses to take the back seat and just make enough money to get by. Everything we accomplished is because I made it happen. He's passive about contributing goals or direction to our family. It's true that women in charge have a tendency to choose men who take direction, but how can we have the best of both worlds? Judge Judy is satisfied having what she has with her husband, but acceptance may have come easier for her since she has already created her own financial freedom. Financial freedom is a woman's nest...we need it to feel safe and confident. So many men do not understand this? Men may be more or less inspired if sex was more frequent, but women are emotional creators...if we feel our home is on shaky ground then we are less and less interested in sex. This is why love is such a vicious cycle.

Economy and Relationships

I have spent many years, 13 to be exact, with one man and now I am feeling that I should have moved on a long time ago. After his years of lies... the last one was the last straw for me, but now I am stuck because I have recently lost my job and can not afford to pay the mortgage on my own. Each day is a struggle to keep up with the image of looking happy when inside I am scared and desiring an escape. There are probably many people in the same boat and it's a lonely feeling. Now that I am older I have a better understanding of what kind of man and life I want. I missed opportunities along the way and as a result many of those opportunities are now married with their own children. I am not one to cheat, so now my only option is to make enough money to break free from my internal jail. It is so difficult to make connections with people as you get older. They have their own family and friends that they have had for years and are very reluctant to let you into their inner circle. My "inner circle" is so busy with their own lives that I rarely hear from them as well. Just wondering if there is other people out there who feel the same way??